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Originally Posted by Laker
When I turned 60 about 10 years ago my son said that now I was eligible to be a "GPS", ie: "Grumpy Person over Sixty".
After reading the complainers remarks on here I will put forth another acronym: "GOF".
Standing for Grumpy Old ####,
Some people wake up every morning just looking for something to complain about. What a sad way to live....
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You're right. In a similar community in Lauderdale-by-the-Sea, some years ago before our own retirement, I was fortunate to have had the opportunity to observe the residents, including my parents, over a long time period. It was clear that some residents made a deliberate decision every day to NOT allow their personalities to deteriorate into resentment, anger, and all the other negative expressions of self discontent and disappointment. Others clearly realized the dangers of slipping into such an unfulfilling life, and took measures so it "would not happen to them". By that I mean, if we (a young family then) arrived with our sons, they would be excited to have an opportunity to engage the boys in conversation, show them things on the beach, talk to them around the pool, and so on. Those folks knew, as I do NOW, that one has to be alert to guard against slipping into a negative state of mind, especially in communities segregated by age. While there are many benefits, it also comes with some "dangers" of negative perceptions, or as some say, "crabbiness". Have you ever seen an individual intentionally go to a family pool, then become obviously upset that their hair, or book got splashed from children playing ? So, at the same community in Lauderdale-by-the-Sea where we would visit my folks often since it was a very short drive away, others would retreat to their homes and, using binoculars (true!) would spend the afternoons watching the pool area, recreation complex, etc. in anticipation of seeing ours, or the children of others, unaccompanied on the grounds (a restriction, much like all dogs must be on a leash, all children of ANY AGE under 18, were to be accompanied at all times by an adult) and being able to call the manager and make a complaint. I didn't realize at the time, but I was taking in all the psychological aspects of this, not the rules...no unaccompanied children seemed a logical rule to me, but I was storing information for MY future that would help me avoid becoming the opinionated, negative, angry, soul I did not want to become. It is a given of course, that in some cases there are actual changes in brain structure that result in personality changes. We've experienced that too in our family, but I am only referencing those for whom it is a deliberate choice to be "difficult".